Steven, as everyone knows, is divorced and has a child. In light of trying to blend us all into a family, as well as trying to avoid the pitfalls in both of our previous relationships, we decided on premarital counseling and it been going well.
Some of what we've been talking about is his apprehension towards discussing anything wedding related, except in brief fits and starts. It's like we know we're getting married and it'll be in a few years, but other than that nothing.
At dinner after our appointment, we started chitchatting about what we had covered in tonight's session. It started out with some reassurances that, unlike his ex-wife, I am not marrying him for the sake of getting married. I told him if he wanted to get married tomorrow, with no one but the judge present, I'd have no problem. I'm marrying him because he's my best friend and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, wedding or not. I also told him that it sometimes makes me nervous that he never wants to set down a when.
He then tells me "Well, I was thinking that we'd get married in the next two years." So that means that I will probably be a legally married lady in October of 2006, most likely! [We had actually picked a month for Vegas, but not date for a ceremony.]
More interesting yet, I wheedled out of him that he has designed an official engagement ring himself. I do have a ring currently, but it's silver and a lab created stone because I am a poor student and he is substitute teaching while he looks for a full time job. I love the ring I have and could care less, but he has told me very strongly that he wants to "do things right."
Anyhow, I'm very excited and wanted to share.
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