Doesn't make a lot of sense, does it?

Back in my funeral directing days I remember wrapping up an arrangement conference with an older woman who's husband past away. She asked if I had any advice in coping with her loss. I thought for a moment then said the following "I really can't say that it would be advice seeing that there really is no hard and fast rule to mourning the loss of someone you've cared for and about your whole life. There is no time table that you can use to magically get over a loss. Let your heart guide you in this matter. You have a full year ahead of firsts that will prompt you to remember your husband. I wouldn't avoid them. I would take each day as it comes and reflect back on the joy and happiness that you both shared." The lady smiled and I just hoped that it helped her in some small way to make it through that day and the next and so on.