Ok, Steven suggested I log things in here, in case the computer effs up again. I'm also uploading shit to Devilgrrl and maybe this week, I'll get my ass in gear and create our wedding site. I have the URL already, only laziness is keeping me from actually putting it up. Well, that and the lack of an official proposal, which is really funny, since Steven's been really active in what he wants for our thingie.
Donna & Joan loved my first choice for a dress. Yay! I like approval. It needs more crinoline, though. A little more fullness in the skirt will make it look much better. It worked with Dawn's, which was the same general design.
Maybe since this is because he didn't have any say in the ex's wedding? She "forgot" to make sure there was a chuppah for the ceremony and a glass for after. Lame. But I'm not going to talk about her.
We started on the guest list today, since I think that is going to be the hardest thing to do. We cannot afford a huge, 300+ person blowout. Originally, I was hoping for around 100. Well, now it's more like "Can we keep it under 150?" So far, I am up to 88 for our friends and family and I get mailed it over to Steven so he can see who I missed. Scratch that, 89 because I forgot Laura's mommy. All fixed now. The good thing about this is that most of Steven's friends know each other and will go as each other's dates or are dating each other. Ergo, we probably are not going to do the "& Guest" thing. I totally wish we could do the & Guest thing, but that would mean cutting a lot of people we want there for people we, essentially, don't know.
I honestly don't think we're going to be inviting kids, either, unless they're in the wedding party. Even then, I'm thinking of hiring a babysitter to let us (read: me) enjoy the night. I also want a back up plan in case, say, Elliott melts down because he won't be the centre of attention. Though, I do have a few failsafes. There will be many Grandmas there to keep him occupied. Plus, he'll have my nephew Brendan, who is a year younger but on the same level, as well as Haille and Lane and possibly Mark Sohmer's kids and my baby cousins if I do decide to invite kids. I don't know. It's going to be an evening wedding. Does anyone have an opinion on the kids/no kids at an evening wedding thing? Elliott will be around 6 when we get married, Brendan will be 5 and they're the youngest.
Once the guest list is done, we'll have an idea of what kind of reception location we need to look for. Right now, UMass Boston is our #1 choice, but it'll be like $4k before catering. Of course, that was for a Saturday and we are actually considering maybe getting married on a Friday night. The Weymouth Elks is also a consideration. If we went with that, though, we would need to find a place for the ceremony and whereever we're going must be open to the use of a chuppah, as well as the breaking of the glass. Realistically, that means we're probably looking at a UU chapel. There's one in North Weymouth, but it doesn't have much parking and there's also one in Rockland that has pretty stained glass. We're also considering St. Albert's, as well.
Oh, and we're shooting for December 2006 or February 2007. We will firm up a date probably in September and definitely by December of this year.
For my own reference: I saw a cool idea on
weddingplans . For the toss bouquet, instead of having just one bouquet for one girl to catch, someone was doing a bouquet that, when tossed, broke up into three or four little ones. Laura, since you are my flower god, what do you think of that? Neat idea? Cheesy as hell?
What else..? We picked out some more of the music. Pre or during ceremony is going to be Above the Stars (Anakin & Padme's love theme). I think I already said that the bridal party is walking in to Ravel's Bolero. Our recessional will be The Throne Room/End Title from Star Wars: A New Hope (Yes, Steven is in charge of a lot of the music. Can you tell?) I told Steven our entrance to the reception should be Darth Vader's theme. Our not yet existent cake will be cut to the theme from Jaws and Steven will remove my garter to A Little Less Conversation, which is the "new" Elvis song.
I am rashy. And when did our lives get enveloped in wedding planning? Ever since he heard about the dress, we've talked about it at least once a day. Oh well, at least my mom will be happy we're actually making plans. I think my grandparents will be happy, too.
Reminder to Self #2: If we get married Friday, December 29th, 2006, I think that would be my grandparents 60th. or 61st. anniversary. Ask Steven what he thinks, since health insurance will not be an issue as of Sept. 2006.
This is starting to feel like it's really getting rolling. Wow... I need to get a wedding planning binder next time I hit Target. There's one that's like $14.95 and I saw it in Framingham, last time I was there. It's all white, very plain, spiral bound, and probably good in case my computer bursts again. Remember this, Samantha. Bleh, I'll have to go in, I guess, since I'll only know it when I see it.
I keep getting alternately giddy and feeling wierd for us planning things out without the actual proposal. But, knowing Steven, he will do it in his own time, after he has perfectly planned it out. It won't be any less special because we've gotten started on the mechanics and piddly little details. It's funny, when I was a little girl, I always though I'd want the perfect, down on one knee with the diamond solitare in some chic restaurant. Now, I'm a lot happier with making a mutual decision to marry and if he wants to propose "the right way", maybe have him to it at a Rox game or something... Something that means something to us as a couple. Just not the spot we first fucked or like in Bickford's or something. I told him the other day that I was totally happy with my silver and sapphire ring and he should stop feeling guilty about it not being platinum and natural sapphire and diamonds. We don't have the money, this is beautiful on its own, and when we eventually have the money, if it still bothers him, he can upgrade. I'd be happy with this ring forever.
I think I need to get some sleep. We're going to see the Ralph Lauren Car Show at the MFA tomorrow and then going to a baseball game with Mom and Bruce. I'm not longer itchy, thanks to the Benedryl that's making me sleepy.
Oh, and if you're dead sick of the wedding rambling, let me know, and I'll create a filter so you don't have to read this, ad nauseum.