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Having another one of *those* nights.
Mar. 9th, 2005 02:01 amYep, I'm having a wedding burst night. That's like a downburst, except for it's in my head and involves tulle. Evidently, there's some kind of girly switch that gets tripped in one's brain when one gets into a serious relationship.
And I was polishing Ye Olde Ring. The sparkles have gone to my brain.
We're going to be putting together a five and ten year plan within the next couple weeks. That means we're going to set framework for where we want to settle, when we want to get married, how long before we want to buy a house, working on our credit, how long before we want to hang up the NoBaby pills, etc. Obviously, some of the decisions (like the birthin' end) will weigh more heavily on my than him, but we also want to talk about factors including his age, my miscarriage(s), our current kid(s), and so forth. I think this is actually the trigger.
But enough of that-- onto the fluff!
This thought sort of popped into my head the other day when Steven and I were talking. I haven't mentioned it to him because I am still mulling over it. I'm not really close to my father. For years, our relationship was nonexistant. In the last year, since we had our huge blowout about how he treated Steven and I told him it was both or none, and he surprised me. He stepped up. He's not Steven's best buddy (that would be my grampa ^.^), but he's warmed up and he's given Elliott a couple of things, including a bike for me from his parents. Anyhow, so things are better, but I'm not sure about having him walk me down the aisle. Unfortunately, it would also really hurt his feelings.
I am considering a couple things. First is I walk my damn self down the aisle. Second is I go ahead and let my father do it and make him very happy. Third (this is the idea) is having Elliott walk me down the aisle.
I like the idea of including Elliott in a little more of a way than, say, my nephew. I'm just not sure if it would be okay or not. Is that tacky? On this same tangent, is it perfectly okay to do this and not invite the ex or ex in-laws? The ex's mother is most likely the cause of their divorce. (Ha ha, and everyone thought it was me!)
And because everyone on my friends list is awesome, here's a last name poll.
[Poll #451186][Poll #451186]
Thank god that's out of my system for now.
And I was polishing Ye Olde Ring. The sparkles have gone to my brain.
We're going to be putting together a five and ten year plan within the next couple weeks. That means we're going to set framework for where we want to settle, when we want to get married, how long before we want to buy a house, working on our credit, how long before we want to hang up the NoBaby pills, etc. Obviously, some of the decisions (like the birthin' end) will weigh more heavily on my than him, but we also want to talk about factors including his age, my miscarriage(s), our current kid(s), and so forth. I think this is actually the trigger.
But enough of that-- onto the fluff!
This thought sort of popped into my head the other day when Steven and I were talking. I haven't mentioned it to him because I am still mulling over it. I'm not really close to my father. For years, our relationship was nonexistant. In the last year, since we had our huge blowout about how he treated Steven and I told him it was both or none, and he surprised me. He stepped up. He's not Steven's best buddy (that would be my grampa ^.^), but he's warmed up and he's given Elliott a couple of things, including a bike for me from his parents. Anyhow, so things are better, but I'm not sure about having him walk me down the aisle. Unfortunately, it would also really hurt his feelings.
I am considering a couple things. First is I walk my damn self down the aisle. Second is I go ahead and let my father do it and make him very happy. Third (this is the idea) is having Elliott walk me down the aisle.
I like the idea of including Elliott in a little more of a way than, say, my nephew. I'm just not sure if it would be okay or not. Is that tacky? On this same tangent, is it perfectly okay to do this and not invite the ex or ex in-laws? The ex's mother is most likely the cause of their divorce. (Ha ha, and everyone thought it was me!)
And because everyone on my friends list is awesome, here's a last name poll.
[Poll #451186][Poll #451186]
Thank god that's out of my system for now.