Good Omen?

[devilgrrl]

DISCLAIMER: No, we are not setting a date, no, there is still no "official he got down on one knee" engagement, and no, nothing is set in stone. This is me and my mad speculation.

In considering wedding dates (yes, it's jumping the gun, but it's fun to think about), there have been a lot of months that have been crossed out due to my concerns about bad karma. My parents were married in January. March is insanely full of stuff (Steven's, Lane's, Haille's, Steven's dad, an aunt, among others), April is when Steven's parents were married, May is when Steven's first wedding was, June... I'm just not down with being a June bride, July is my birthday, and September is Steven's mother's birthday.

I don't want to get married in a month where someone either of us knows well either had a bad marriage or got divorced. I know it's superstitious, but I'm not taking chances. That's part of the reason we decided we will not store the pictures of Steven's first wedding here, even though we are saving them for Elliott when he's 18 (or at least much older). That's why we are giving away her wedding china rather than selling it or throwing it out. I do say hers because she picked it out, independant of Steven. Lame, eh?

November is a possibility, but there are a couple birthdays and an anniversary. December is a forerunner, considering my grandparents' anniversary is that month and they have one of the best marriages I've ever seen. In 2007, their anniversary will fall on a Saturday, which makes it a viable option.

Today, I was thinking about Groundhog's Day as well. Both Steven and I really like the holiday, so I checked 2008. Also a Saturday. We are planning 2007-2008 as a ballpark figure. I know we will most likely officially marry in Vegas in October for a couple reasons, though one is no longer valid (no more blood tests in Mass. Yay!) The other is possible discounts if we go during Interbike with Steven's friend Paul and his wife Karin. Second, if we go with them, hey, built in witnesses!

Sign from above of good things to come? What do you guys think?

Comments

[trixasaurus.livejournal.com]

HEY! I was a June bride! (it was an accident -- I knew nothing about weddings.)

I'm super excited for you. And I think Vegas is closer to me *WINK*

[webmistressu.livejournal.com]

Well, I think you know I got married in Vegas (in November, no less)... and I'm all for it. So much less hassle than planning a big wedding and so much more inexpensive! I swear TO GOD if I could impart any wisdom on you, it is this... fuck the details and concentrate on what the ceremony really means. I don't even remember my wedding because I was so stressed out about what was supposed to happen to who and when and where. It's a shame you only get to do it once, because I'd really like to do it again and enjoy it.

[devilgrrl.livejournal.com]

Oooh! Oooh! Oooh! You could come and be a witness and stuff!

I'm so jumping the gun. We aren't even thinking of any of this until '07. But damn, vague plans can be fun.

[devilgrrl.livejournal.com]

I think that's some of the reason we've decided to do it twice. Vegas is going to be for us. Vegas has always appealed to me, especially the Elvis part, and as soon as I mentioned it, Steven's eyes lit up. Plus, it's an excuse for blowing off his insane family without looking like we're blowing just them off.

We've come to the conclusion that we'll have a wedding-wedding sometime after we get back. We also want to incorporate the kids into our life/wedding, as well as shut my damn mother-in-law up once and for all. (Of course, if she keeps going like she is, we'll just lock her in a closet or something.) It's the best compromise we could think of, considering we know for damn sure Elliott's mother would never in a million years let him go to Vegas.

I also want to do the full blown thing so Steven has a chance to have a say in what he wants. At his first wedding, he was involved in no part of the planning, picking out the china, etc, and was told just to show up (insinuating that he could possibly screw that up too.)

I should write her a thank you note, really. Her filing for divorce was the best thing to happen.

I totally appreciate your advice. It's so true that too many people freak over everything being perfect and therefore enjoying no part of their wedding. Only one couple out of our friends truly embodied the love for the day. It was doubly special, since they could only marry recently. Yay for Mass legalizing gay marriage. They truly enjoyed the celebration of the beginning of a new part of their life, rather than My God, The Wedding Must Be Perfect!

Well, this was a book.

[ragdollgirl.livejournal.com]

could work! i say go for it!